Develop Confidence, elevate your relationships with men, & thrive from the inside out in your single and dating years
Courses, community, and coaching for catholic & christian single and dating ladies in their 20's-40's who want to be the woman God created them to be, experience men in a whole new way, and attract a worthy man.
TIS is for you if...
You're tired of searching for all the single and dating advice, trying all the tactics, and not seeing any results
You want to burn the dating apps to the ground and actually meet men in real life
You've got so much you long to share with a companion, but you're exhausted from not meeting men you’d actually like to get to know
No matter how much you do or how hard you work on yourself, it still feels like it's never enough
You'd like to not hate the dating process and strongly desire to show up to the dating scene feeling relaxed and actually enjoying it (could that even be possible!?)
You have stuff going on constantly in your life and feel like the stress, overwhelm, and burnout never end and you’re looking for a reprieve
You feel like you’re constantly on a roller coaster of emotions every month and don’t know another way
You're spread thin and need more clarity on where to focus in your life, and confidence in navigating your next steps
You just want to do God's will in your life, but you don’t know what it is
This single & dating journey is an absolute roller coaster of emotions, no? Plenty of ups & downs and surprise twists that no one really prepared you for.
The second guessing and constant wondering if you’re missing something, doing it wrong, or need to do more…
All of this is really exhausting.
(and you wonder if it will ever happen for you…)
Finding a good man and creating a healthy and holy relationship has been WAY harder than you expected.
You’re not where you thought you’d be in life at this point. This wasn’t supposed to be your story. Maybe there’s something wrong with you and that’s why you’re not married yet…
Do I have to keep dating?
Is all this even worth it?
And at the same time, your ache is SO consuming, and often chips away at your health, relationships, dreams, and other important areas of life.
It can feel like your hope is hanging on by a thread… It's taking such a toll.
Yet, you’re still here. The Lord keeps telling you to show up.
You don’t want to give up. You know your ache was meant for something.
Your desire to love is so good, and you want to trust His purpose in the pain right now.
You want to believe it IS possible to hold onto hope, to create a beautiful life now... AND actually meet and marry a good man while enjoying the dating process.
You also want to believe that God is truly good, that He does see your heart and that your desires matter to Him, and that He HASN’T forgotten you.
But you’re not sure how to do that.
Because if you’re like so many of the women we encounter in this space, you probably feel like you’ve tried everything; you’ve prayed the novenas, been on the dating apps, said yes to the dates, read the books, listened to the podcasts and frankly you’re exhausted from putting yourself out there.
Something just isn’t working.
And you can’t seem to turn off the 24/7 neon sign in your mind flashing “Something must be wrong with me”.
Maybe you’re wondering what everyone else knows that you don’t when it comes to dating.
Perhaps you’re feeling like a fool that you have been hoping and praying this long only for this to be your story thus far.
Or even worse, you’re actually beginning to believe on a gut level that God HAS forgotten you; that you, your heart, and desires don’t matter.
“Just hold on to hope” they say, but they don’t say how. “Put yourself out there” they say, but they don’t give you the tools to make it feel fun, free, and joyful. “You’re such a catch” they say, or “why haven’t you met anyone yet?”
And you’re left with only questions. No answers.
And these questions make you feel like they’re wrapping you up in a blanket of shame.
Precious sister. We see you. We know that space. All too well. It’s absolutely excruciating sometimes. More than anything, we want to just sit with you here. Witness the pain from the journey. Be with you.
The utter loneliness of this experience is sometimes the worst part; the not knowing how to hold hope in the tension of the ‘space between’---that space where “this is WHERE I am right now…but I want to be over there”... and holding that tension. Now that is hard.
Invitation to extend so much compassion for yourself because there was so much you were never taught.
Beauty, there IS hope…You’re not alone in this…God hasn’t forgotten you…your heart and desires matter deeply to Him. And if you can’t believe this *yet, we’re holding these truths for you while you sit in the ick.
Deep breath beauty - together we’re going to explore with a whole lot of compassion and curiosity to see what else God could have up His sleeves for you in your current season.
Hey there! 👋🏼
Hey gals, I'm Maria Spears Mumaugh 💕
Hey beauties! Maybe you landed here because you've been waiting for someone to finally see you in this season of being single and dating, someone to hold space for your ache, while also giving you practical ways to show up better to your current season (that doesn't sound like "he'll come when you stop looking"... we also despise that one…)
Well, meet your fabulous coaches, Maria and Meghan!
We're two certified Catholic strategic mindset coaches who have coached hundreds of Christian and Catholic single and dating women learn how to thrive wherever they are, transform their dating experiences, and discover freedom and joy along the way.
We've uncovered the countless ways we as women shoot ourselves in the foot mentally, emotionally, hormonally, spiritually, and sexually when it comes to showing up to spaces of unmet desires.
And can we just say.... we are over the moon excited that you're now on the journey with us.
But you don't have to walk this path alone - and we truly believe you're not meant to. Healing happens in connection. It happens in communion. And it happens in community.
This is what TIS is all about.
We are with you on the journey,
M&M
Ciao bellas, I'm Meghan Elfelt 💃🏻
I was definitely emasculating men left and right previously but I didn't know that word and had absolutely no idea what I was doing to them.
I was also scared of them; multiple male family members have anger management issues and I just assumed that all men do. So I guess I thought emasculation was a survival or coping technique for me 🙃
I'm also NOT from an emotionally supportive family so I had absolutely no idea what to expect (other than the worst) from men.
But with TIS, I now think of male-female relationships as more of a dance which is so fun. I also have a new job and, for the first time, I have male colleagues and am interacting with men on a daily basis now and love that they are not at all like my male family members.
I'm definitely enjoying life so much more with this healthier balance.
Not making a decision is making a decision 🤯 you guys... I was the worst decision maker!!!
And then I find out I was actually making a decision to not make a decision, the irony in this 😂.
This has really helped to step into the place of asking what I want and then making a decision.
Don't get me wrong, this place is definitely still hard as I would just like to please the other person.... but it's a process right!
“I was surprised by how much I didn't know about me. It's a great way to see that we are truly not alone or “behind the curve" if we're in our 30s and still single."
"I am very grateful to the Lord for the great works that he has done in my life through TIS. He made my path cross path with TIS at the exact moment when I needed it. I entered this community with a heart full of wounds, hopelessness and confusion. And also with a glimmer of hope that was gently planted in my heart by Maria (for which I am very grateful).
In this community I have found so many things that I needed - workshops and tools about how to thrive no matter where I am in life, workshops and tools around addressing wound and finding healing, workshops and tools about dating, workshop and tools about thriving in my body.
I have found practical help and support in my growth journey in coaching sessions, a supportive community, and 2 very knowledgeable and loving guides - M&M. A year and a half later, I am pursuing a new career that will lead me to greater fulfillment; my heart of full of hope and healing, capable to dream more; and my relationship with the Lord is better than ever.
Along the way I have met ladies, who through their own journey with TIS, are pursuing new careers, have moved out of their parents house, have steps into beautiful dating spaces and relationships, ladies who have gotten engaged, and married. I am grateful for all the ways in which the Lord has worked through TIS, through M&M, in my life and in the life of the other ladies, some of which are now my very good friends."
Before finding TIS, I played the blame game with why I wasn't meeting men that I would want to date/why I was not dating.
I have grown to enjoy meeting men and approaching new people with greater curiosity, having open body language, not hiding parts of myself, etc.
Before I think that I showed up as the leader on the date and I expected this date to turn into a relationship or else the man was wasting my time.
Now I realize that going on dates should be fun and not goal-oriented because then I become the pursuer and not the one being pursued.
I am also allowing men to take more of an initiative and trying my hardest to step down and just let them be. I was also definitely emasculating men.
Now, I am learning to be receptive and opening up the space for a man to pursue me and if they don’t follow through while it hurts it also feels right because it is a clear sign that they aren’t interested instead of thinking like I have to force something.
I am also appreciating and verbalizing to men what I do appreciate about them and what they’re doing right vs before I would look at all the wrong they did.
It is so helpful to finally understand why dating feels difficult and that I can change my perspective and not feel hopeless about dating.
I have been through counseling, spiritual direction, and have shared with close friends but no one seems to quite get it and offer the perspective and understanding that you have.